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Я выражаю искреннюю благодарность моим клиентам. Хотя я не могу нарушить конфиденциальность и назвать ваши имена, знайте, что ваша смелость, стойкость и открытость очень сильно вдохновили меня. Спасибо, что позволили мне быть частью вашей жизни и многому меня научили. Эта книга – свидетельство вашей силы и роста.

Мои родители, Шэрон и Дэн Хендриксен, и брат Стивен Хендриксен появляются в книге совсем ненадолго, но их присутствие в жизни и поддержка постоянны. Сюзанна Парк бесконечно делилась своим временем и гостеприимством. Эта книга не могла появиться без поддержки, любви и легкости Николаса, Адриена и Дэвина Карриеров. Я люблю вас всех.

Каждому читателю и слушателю (от слушателей первого эпизода подкаста «Опытный психолог» (Savvy Psychologist) до совершенно новых читателей) я говорю спасибо от всего сердца. Вы – движущая сила каждого написанного слова. Я так благодарна, что вы позволили мне проделать этот путь вместе с вами.

Об авторе

Эллен Хендриксен – клинический психолог в Центре тревожности и связанных с ней расстройств Бостонского университета, автор книги Социальная тревожность: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety. Ее работы освещались в том числе в The New York Times, The Washington Post, BBC News, New York, The Guardian, Harvard Business Review, Scientific American и Psychology Today. Эллен живет в Бостоне вместе с семьей.

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